So many people are not OK with their dark sides, and especially the dark or shadow side of others. Now adays it seems people are trying to outdo one another with their "light sides". What do you do when someone or something irks or triggers you? Do you stew in unwanted thoughts and feelings, do you calculate how to get one up on that person? Is there someone who constantly sets you off? Typically, whatever you dislike about yourself, a difficult external event, or someone's irritating words or behavior may be a characteristic of your own shadow self. Of course, you may resist this truth with all your might because you’re strongly invested in denying this part of yourself. Now that you know the shadow story, see if you can shift your focus from the other person to your own internal landscape, exploring: Is this a quality within you? Perhaps one you hate? Are there unpleasant memories associated with this trait? Consider: Can you accept this part of yourself? If not, what holds you back?
In Debbie Ford’s words, “We live under the impression that in order for something to be divine it has to be perfect. We are mistaken. In fact, the exact opposite is true. To be divine is to be whole and to be whole is to be everything: the positive and the negative, the good and the bad, the holy man and the devil.”